Happy Locktober, Socktober, Jocktober, and Orctober! The round-up of October’s queer-focused leather/kink/fetish events is here. Build yourself a month of kinky fun by checking out what’s on offer around Seattle.
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5:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
The Lumber Yard Bar, 9630 16th Ave SW, Seattle 98106
Cost: Free
Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/273288391837188
Description:
Let’s celebrate the start of the spookiest month together 🖤🧡. Costumes welcome, fetish wear strongly encouraged – priority entry for those in fetish wear, and please remember that nipples and genitals must be covered at all times.
Tasty is a monthly kink night at The Lumber Yard Bar in White Center. We have experienced tasting tops waiting to give you a taste/demo if you are wanting to try something new: Rope, wax, electro, and more. Space/furniture is available for the experienced kinksters to bring toys and show off their scenes. Monitors are around to help keep things running smoothly; find them wearing bright green lanyards. We offer this event to the community as a safe space to socialize, play, and learn, so tell your friends and claim your space as this new event takes off!! 🖤⛓️❤️
Please note that some forms of play require sobriety, there will be bracelets available at the door if you wish to partake in these activities to signal that you aren’t drinking. You are welcome to the “no alcohol” bracelet even if you are not playing. You must don the bracelet upon entering and may remove it after play if you’d like to drink alcohol.
This month we are lucky enough to have AJ, the current Washington State Bootblack titleholder joining us, so bring your leather and donations and she will be sure to shine you up just how you like.
Social time 6:30 p.m., discussion 7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Kitsap ACES, 318 N Callow Ave, Bremerton, 98312
Cost: $5 suggested donation
Link: https://fetlife.com/events/1371422 (requires login)
Description:
This discussion group aims to create a space where queer members of Kitsap County and neighboring communities can come together to empower and uplift each other.
The queer alphabet is long: This month we’re focusing on finishing our discussion about bisexual and pansexual and introducing the discussion about lesbianism. What defines someone as a lesbian? Can you be a lesbian if you date AMAB people? Can you be gay if you date AFAB people? Is lesbian culture different from gay culture and vice versa? What makes someone bisexual? Is bisexual different from pansexual?
Noon – 7:00 p.m.
Steamworks, 1520 Summit Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: Varies, see https://www.swbaths.com/seattle-rates
Description:
Bear day every Wednesday at Steamworks.
6:30 p.m. doors, 7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m. classes
Gallery Erato, 309 1st Ave S, Seattle, WA 98104
Cost: $15-$60 sliding scale
Description:
Join us for a one night event where we’ll explore harnessing the power of uplifting others through physical, emotional, and mental intimacy, as well as learning how to be better “naked neighbors.” Join Sex Positive World & Lady Vivus for a two-class intensive focused on empowering ourselves & the world around us!
First Class: Gender-Affirming Intimacy
We’ll explore how positive, gender-affirming physical, emotional, & mental intimacy can make ourselves or others feel more aligned with their beautiful, authentic selves. This class was developed to support trans bodies, as well as their partners, and is accessible to everyone regardless of gender identity.
We will dive into some methods of intimate physical and sexual touch and affirming language to use for yourself or your partner(s) to create more gender-euphoric feelings. We will also discuss how achieving gender euphoria during intimacy can promote mental wellness for trans folks.
Finally, towards the end of this class, we will help you develop your own “Gender-Affirming Profile” or navigate helping a trans partner create their own Gender-Affirming Profile. This class is designed for both trans folks and cis allies. Gender non-conforming folks may also benefit from pieces of this to create their own unique Gender Affirming Profile.
Second Class: Sexy Intersections: Anti-Racism and Sex Positivity
This anti-racism class helps folks think about the many power dynamics that affect us when we interact in a community. It’s a good space for beginners who are eager to learn. We’ll think about our many identities and how they shape our expertise, and the areas where we need to learn and grow.
We’ll spend some time talking about the inevitable mistakes we make and the ways we hurt each other, and walk through the protocol we’ll use for those hard times when we’ve done things that don’t align with our values. We’ll center race while also addressing intersectionality in general. Everyone will be encouraged to work on perspective-taking from our privileges as well as our oppressions.
7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
Steamworks Seattle, 1520 Summit Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: $5 membership, $19 for a locker
Link: https://fetlife.com/events/1376327 (requires login)
Description:
Into getting spanked? Like smacking some bare cheeks? Whether you prefer the paddle, strap or barehand, this event is for you! Note: Steamworks is a male-only venue.
6:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.
The WildRose Bar, 1021 E Pike St, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1037972643902931
Description:
NEW! Join us every first Thursday for a chill evening of socializing and discussion among kinky, leather, and/or curious women+. All women (cis and trans) and enbys comfortable in women-centered spaces are welcome.
Every month we’ll spend some time chatting and catching up before a break away discussion group. This month we’re joined by 2009 WA Ms. Leather Angie (they/them) to talk about getting over your fears and introducing yourself to strangers – perfect for our first ever munch!
This event is 21+, and you will need your ID to enter the venue. No outside food or drinks are permitted, but the bar offers tasty food and drinks. Including nonalcoholic options for folks who don’t drink alcohol. There are 4 stairs into the venue.
For those new to kink/leather spaces, a munch is an opportunity to socialize and build community. No play happens at a munch, and you should dress in street-appropriate clothing. Consent is key in all things, including flirting and platonic touching (like hugs, or handshakes), so clearly ask for and clearly receive consent to engage.
Link: https://www.facebook.com/TacomaLeatherSocial
Description:
Tacoma’s LGBTQ+ leather/kink/fetish social – now every Thursday!
7:30 p.m. door, 8:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m. show
Kremwerk, 1809 Minor Avenue, Seattle 98122
Cost: $22.66 online, $25 at the door
Description:
It’s Halloween month, and event sponsor Fantasy Unlimited has given some extra-special prizes for best costume! So, live your best fantasy and doll up, cuties!
From the deranged mind of Seattle’s kinky comedy queen, Bobby Higley, comes a kinky queer comedy show.
Ever wanted to see hilarious performers pushed to their limits with naughty challenges? Seattle’s homegrown fetish comedy show is It’s a comedy show for virgins, kinksters, puppies, yuppies, and everyone who’s jerked off to something questionable. We demonstrate kinks on willing comics – during their sets!
Over four years of demented kinky comedy challenges have included:
8:00 p.m. – 2:00 a.m.
CC Attles, 1701 East Olive Way, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Event link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1007082020411386
Dress code: https://www.ccsseattle.com/dress-code
Description:
Every FIRST Saturday of the month is CC’s Seattle Fetish Night. Gear up in your favorite fetish attire and join your friends for a hot night of great drinks, and sexy surprises.
October’s Fetish Night is rubber-themed: Show off your rubber fetish. Don’t own latex? Come out in spandex, neoprene, or whatever other gear you have (that meets the dress code).
SLSC’s RopeLab organizers will also be there doing rope bondage demos!
The dress code (see link above) will be enforced; coat check available. Fetish Night is about expression, it is an event for gear or theme-based participants. NOT SPECTATORS! If your fetish is not gear-based or is about voyeurism, this event is not for you.
4:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Phoenix Comics & Games, 113 Broadway E, Seattle 98102
Cost: None
Link: www.xlbears.org. Current information is more easily found in the Telegram chat group: https://t.me/joinchat/REIEUTrf-MYRA_88
Description:
Join the XL Bears for board games, MtG and socializing at their monthly game night.
8:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
Online event
Cost: Free for CSPC members, $5 for nonmembers
Link: https://thecspc.org/events/queer-discussion-group/2023/oct
Description:
Come join our hosts Jadzia and Elissa on first Tuesdays as we welcome people from all across the kinky and sex-positive queer community. Our focus during this discussion group will be on all the ways our queer identities interact with our kink and sex-positive lives. As queer people, we experience unique challenges and the CSPC is proud to offer a place to celebrate and commiserate through sharing experiences.
We’ll spend the first portion of the meeting checking in about what’s going on in our lives. The rest is spent discussing topics that explore how we navigate our understanding of ourselves and our relationships with others, our society, kink and how we can strive for more self-knowledge and happiness.
Noon – 7:00 p.m.
Steamworks, 1520 Summit Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: Varies, see https://www.swbaths.com/seattle-rates
Description:
Bear day every Wednesday at Steamworks.
6:30 p.m. – 9:30 p.m.
Location given upon registration
Cost: None, but donations encouraged
Link: https://seattleleather.org/events-lite/rope-lab/
Description:
SLSC RopeLab is a collaborative men’s rope bondage community for experienced rope riggers to workshop and practice rope techniques. This is a space for gay and bisexual men, transmen, and other male presenting people to participate in ropework peer-learning skillshare.
There is no evaluation/requirement for proof of skill level. If you feel you have the necessary skills to participate, you are encouraged to attend. However, the focus of RopeLab Seattle will always highlight the needs of our community’s advanced riggers – RopeLab Seattle is not the place to learn your first knots, but once you have those down (having learned them at one of many great events such as Men Tying Men or a ropes class facilitated by SLSC) you are encouraged and welcome to join SLSC RopeLab.
7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
The Mix, 635 St. Helens Avenue, Tacoma 98402
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/TacomaLeatherSocial
Description:
They’ve got a lot of everything kinky at the Tacoma Leather Social. Meet up with the hottest LGBTQ+ kinksters and leatherfolk in the South Sound every Thursday.
6:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
The Cuff Complex, 1533 13th Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Link: https://seapah.com/public/schedule/events/48848-sea-pah-meet-sniff-social
Description:
Come be social during SEA-PAH’s monthly Meet & Sniff! Meet up with some old friends, make some new ones, and join with other members of the Pack as we invade The Cuff.
Just a reminder we share the space with multiple other social groups. Please be kind and welcoming to them as well.
7:30 p.m. doors, 7:45 p.m. first orientation, 8:00 p.m. event start
Gallery Erato, 309 1st Ave S, Seattle, WA 98104
Cost: TBA
Link: Contact the organizer for more information
Description:
Join us for Macabre, a play party intended to create space for players new and old who are drawn to the edges of sensuality and sadomasochism. This recurring event invites you to come prepared with your most creative and spine-tingling scene ideas.
The evening begins with a mandatory orientation, which you will have four chances to participate in. If you are unable to attend the orientation, you will not be admitted to the space.
Macabre is an inclusive environment that embraces all sexualities and identities and celebrates queerness in its many forms. We are committed to creating accountable spaces that are open to all races, ethnicities, ability statuses, and sexual orientations. Please note, only the first floor of
Gallery Erato is accessible without stairs, and there is a small ramp to navigate at the entrance to the building.
Macabre abides by the Pan Eros Foundation and Gallery Erato policies for play parties. This event benefits the Pan Eros Foundation.
Schedule:
Doors open at 7:30 p.m.
First orientation begins at 7:45 p.m., and orientations will happen every half hour through 9pm.
The downstairs playspace is open from 8 p.m. – 1 a.m.
The upstairs playspace is open from 9 p.m. – 1 a.m.
You are welcome to bring snacks and non-alcoholic beverages. Please bring your own water bottles, there is a refill station available.
11:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.
Gallery Erato, 309 1st Avenue South, Seattle 98104
Cost: $5 recommended donation
Link (event): https://fetlife.com/events/1373667 (requires login)
Link (group): https://fetlife.com/groups/42882 (requires login)
Description:
WREG is a peer learning space featuring demos and group discussion; it is not intended to be a class. We aim to empower fem-identifying, trans, and non-binary rope tops. Male and masc-identifying people are welcome to attend as bottoms and to self-tie.
2:00 p.m. – 4:00 p.m.
The Cuff Complex, 1533 13th Avenue, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Link: https://seapah.com/public/schedule/events/48839-sea-pah-monthly-open-mosh
Description:
Our Open Monthly Mosh is back and open to the entire community! Come on down to the Cuff Dance Floor for a mosh with SEA-PAH.
IMPORTANT! Please be sure that if you bring it in, you take it home, even if the items are disposable in nature. And no outside food or drinks, please.
As always, the board of SEA-PAH will continue to work with our venues and follow CDC guidelines. If there are any changes, we will put out an announcement and update our website.
3:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Location TBA
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/POCkinkseattle
Description:
PLEASE CONTACT PLEASURE HOLE AT THE LINK ABOVE TO CONFIRM DATE, TIME AND LOCATION OF THIS MONTH’S MUNCH. Details were unavailable at the time of publishing.
Meet and Mingle with other members of the local POC kinky community. Note: Inquire with the organizers about the location for this month’s munch.
10:00 p.m. – 2:00 a.m.
Seattle Eagle, 314 E Pike St, Seattle, WA 98122
Cost: $15
Link (event): https://www.facebook.com/events/798872735255955
Link (tickets): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/stank-x-seattle-eagle-stevie-303-fawks-jumpr-tickets-720181792127
Description:
San Francisco’s iconic Pit Party from the legendary Powerhouse Bar is set to land at the Seattle Eagle! Ripe beats, Cellblock babes, stiff drinks, the Mr S Leather Ripe Pit Contest, and all the PITS…need more info?
Noon – 7:00 p.m.
Steamworks, 1520 Summit Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: Varies, see https://www.swbaths.com/seattle-rates
Description:
Bear day every Wednesday at Steamworks.
7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
The Mix, 635 St. Helens Avenue, Tacoma 98402
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/TacomaLeatherSocial
Description:
They’ve got a lot of everything kinky at the Tacoma Leather Social. Meet up with the hottest LGBTQ+ kinksters and leatherfolk in the South Sound every Thursday.
6:00 p.m.
CC Attles, 1701 East Olive Way, Seattle 98122
Cost: None, but tip your bootblack!
Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1529176117825920/
Description:
Are you interested in being a bootblack? Do you have leather that needs some loving care?
On the third Friday of every month, come support local bootblacks Luna (she/her) and Trey (he/him) and let them provide the loving care that your leather deserves.
6:30 p.m. door, 7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. show
Cryptatropa Bar, 421 4th Ave E, Olympia 98501
Cost: $23.43 general admission online, $28.79 reserved seating online (recommended for parties of 4+), or $25 at the door
Link: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/safeword-cryptatropa-bar-olympia-wa-tickets-660045222027
Description:
Ever wanted to see hilarious performers pushed to their limits with naughty challenges? Seattle’s homegrown fetish comedy show is It’s a comedy show for virgins, kinksters, puppies, yuppies, and everyone who’s jerked off to something questionable. We demonstrate kinks on willing comics – during their sets!
Over four years of demented kinky comedy challenges have included:
Check out https://www.instagram.com/safewordcomedy for some photo examples.
7:30 p.m. – midnight
Kitsap ACES, 318 N Callow Ave, Bremerton, 98312
Cost: Member rates apply. Nonmembers, $20
Link: https://fetlife.com/events/1368117 (requires login)
Description:
This play party is intended explicitly for queer and trans members of the Kitsap ACES community and the Kitsap community at large (nonmembers welcome!). This party is sponsored/hosted by the Kitsap ACES Queer Discussion Group that meets every first Tuesday of the month.
The last QTs party was so well received that we’ve decided to do it again! Additionally, coming to a play party is hard for some people, but it can be particularly difficult for people who either present gender non-heteronormative or who engage in relationships that aren’t heteronormative. Sometimes this difficulty can cause members of the queer/trans community to avoid play parties altogether. It can also be off-putting to enter into a space and only see hetero couples. This party is an attempt to mitigate those fears and discomfort.
9:00 p.m. – 1:30 a.m.
Tukwila, exact location given upon registration
Cost: TBA
Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1133981977283947/
Description:
More information forthcoming.
11:00 a.m. check-in, Noon walk start
Fisher Pavilion, 305 Harrison St, Seattle 98109
Cost: None, but donations encouraged
Description:
The Seattle Pups and Handlers is once again walking with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, and it’s free to register.
The Out of the Darkness Community Walk is a journey of remembrance, hope, and support. It unites our communities and provides an opportunity to acknowledge the ways in which suicide and mental health conditions have affected our lives and the lives of those we love and care about.
7:00 p.m.
The Mix, 635 Saint Helens Ave., Tacoma 98402
Cost: $1/board
Link: None
Description:
Join host Pinkos for smut trivia and dirty nasty prizes every fourth Sunday at The Mix in Tacoma.
6:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.
Gallery Erato, 309 1st Ave S, Seattle, WA 98104
Cost: $10 suggested donation, no one turned away for lack of funds
Link (info): https://www.pan-eros.org/event/trans-t4t-ropes-meet-up-and-skill-share/?instance_id=5467
Link (registration): https://forms.gle/YSTwGbGUczYG2cE76
Description:
Please join us for our next rope practice and discussion group for (and by) trans and umbrella folks including non-binary, genderqueer, two-spirit and any other gender divergent identity as well as queer folks who have lived experience with the trans communities – i.e., interpersonal relationships (read: you have sex with trans people).
This is an event for any (queer, trans) body. We celebrate diversity and eagerly welcome all races, ethnicities, relationship orientations, body sizes, abilities, religions, etc. While this is a trans-run and -centered space, we broaden this to queers who are trans-adjacent, but ask that cishet folks stay home so we can continue making this a safe(r) space.
7:00 p.m. – 8:01 p.m. doors (no late admission), ends 10:00 p.m.
The Beacon Cinema, 4405 Rainier Ave, Seattle 98118
Cost: Free (members only), ticket is required
Link: https://seapah.com/public/schedule/events/54330-members-only-halloween-movie-night
Description:
SEA-PAH is excited to bring back its Halloween Movie night, featuring the beloved Michael Keaton film, Beetlejuice! This event is for SEA-PAH members only, no exceptions. This is an 18+ event, and it’s totally free! The Beacon Cinema has a snack bar to purchase tasty treats. Halloween costumes are encouraged.
Noon – 7:00 p.m.
Steamworks, 1520 Summit Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: Varies, see https://www.swbaths.com/seattle-rates
Description:
Bear day every Wednesday at Steamworks.
5:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.
The Cuff Complex, 1533 13th Avenue, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Link: https://fetlife.com/events/1362559 (requires login)
Description:
This munch is specifically for queer, genderqueer, or queer-exploring kinksters. We include a variety of sexual and gender orientations under the Queer umbrella including: queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, nonbinary, agender, genderqueer, and others.
We will specifically be occupying the outdoor patio area at the Cuff. We are semi-separated from other areas in the Cuff, and we encourage you to stay close to our area (though you’re welcome to explore anywhere else).
7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
The Mix, 635 St. Helens Avenue, Tacoma 98402
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/TacomaLeatherSocial
Description:
They’ve got a lot of everything kinky at the Tacoma Leather Social. Meet up with the hottest LGBTQ+ kinksters and leatherfolk in the South Sound every Thursday.
7:00 p.m.
Diesel, 1413 14th Ave, Seattle, 98122
Cost: Free
Link: None
Description:
A gathering for fisters of all skill levels every fourth Thursday. Catch up with old friends and make new ones. Wearing or flagging red is encouraged to help folks find you.
6:30 p.m.
Distant Worlds Coffeehouse, 6401 Roosevelt Way NE, Seattle
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1035602090972364
Description:
NEW! Join us the last Friday of every month to meet, flirt, and mingle with other trans & nonbinary leather folk! This event is restricted to 18+ trans and nonbinary people only.
8:00 p.m. – 2:00 a.m.
CC Attles, 1701 East Olive Way, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Link: www.xlbears.org. Current information is more easily found in the Telegram chat group, click here to join.
Description:
The XL Bear Bust moves to every fourth Friday starting 28 July! Socialize with Seattle’s friendliest bears at their monthly bar night.
9:00 p.m. – 2:00 a.m.
Lumberyard Bar, 9630 16th Ave SW, Seattle 98106
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100041702934338
Description:
Cubby Hole is a night of unapologetic fun and fierce moves, when our dance floor is a celebration of love and inclusivity, where ALL bodies are welcome and celebrated. Let your true self shine in a judgment-free zone, surrounded by a community that embraces diversity.
DJ Tony Burns is turning up the volume with a mix of club hits that’ll make you lose yourself in the music, and timeless dance classics that will have you grooving all night long. Bring your squad, and let’s light up the night with laughter, love, and electric energy! Don’t miss out on the ultimate queer dance experience – see you on the dance floor!
3:00 p.m. – 7:00 p.m.
Q Sauna & Spa, 17420 Highway 99, Lynwood 98037
Cost: $40 sauna & spa admission fee
Link: www.xlbears.org. Current information is more easily found in the Telegram chat group, click here to join.
Description:
Spend some time with the XL Bears relaxing at a Korean spa!
3:30 p.m. – 6:30 p.m.
CC Attles, 1701 East Olive Way, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/858025878640517/888413705601734/
Description:
Come join WSLO and many of Seattle’s local queer kink, fetish, leather, drag, bear organizations and businesses as we socialize and network every second Saturday of the month at CC Attle’s on Cap Hill. Members of the community interested in learning more about local orgs and getting involved with them are highly encouraged to attend!
Groups involved have included Doghouse Leather, House of Shenanigans, Knights of Mantra, SEA-PAH, SgoL, The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, SLSC, SML, and XL Bears.
This event does not have a dress code, but org reps/members are encouraged to represent their organizations in their dress. We look forward to seeing you there!
8:00 p.m. – 2:00 a.m.
CC Attles, 1701 East Olive Way, Seattle 98122
Cost: None
Event link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1007082020411386
Description:
This Halloween dive into a fantasy world and take a journey through the Castle, Catacombs, Dungeon, Graveyard, etc. but be careful and watch out or you may be captured by a Daddy along the way.
In addition to the recurring events happening in August, we encourage you to mark your calendars for the events below.
Time TBA
The Lumber Yard Bar, 9630 16th Ave SW, Seattle 98106
Cost: TBA
Event link: TBA
Description:
SEA-PAH’s annual pet talent show features multiple rounds of challenges, including agility, talent, looks, eating, and more.
9:00 p.m. – 3:00 a.m.
The Cuff Complex, 1533 13th Ave, Seattle 98122
Cost: $19.24 earlybird, $24.89 general admission
Link: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bearracuda-seattle-gets-stuffed-tickets-729381829687
Description:
Bearracuda is back for our final Seattle party of 2023! It’s the day after Thanksgiving, and we are looking to GET STUFFED! Dance all night with DJs Del Stamp and Freddy King of Pants, hot Go-Gos, heavy cruising and hundreds of guys through the door all night.